Dating Advice UK: Ready to Date and Find A Relationship?Jacob
Well, are you ready to start dating? This can apply to whether you’ve been dating or new to dating again after a long-term relationship. “Of course I do,” you can say, but it’s surprising how many people I talk to say they’re ready, but when we dig a little deeper, all sorts of dating / relationship / life issues arise. How about the lady who said she was ready but that there was a certain man who had been at the bottom for 11 years? Or the woman who is also ready but who never has time to go to the hairdresser or check her bank statement due to the hours she works?
What stands in the way of successful dating?
It can both hinder being ready to go out successfully and find a relationship. Here are some of the common things:
o Still has emotional baggage from previous relationships
o Being in the midst of legal chaos
o Working so many hours that you can’t find the time
o Excessive commitment to family
o People in your life that hold you back
o Not knowing what you really want in a relationship
Wherever you are, it’s important that you get a dating / relationship route checkup. By that I mean looking at all areas of your life so that you are clear on what you need to handle before you can start a relationship. This may sound hackneyed, but to be successful in relationships you need to find a way to be successful in life. Relationships are not an isolated part of our lives, but a reflection of how we live our lives in general. If your life is in balance, it is much more possible that you can find and build a successful relationship.
Building a life that is ready for relationship
I just mentioned a road check relationship. If you are going to be ready to go the ‘way’, so to speak, what needs to be in place? These are some areas that I suggest you look at: –
or physical / emotional health
or work / career
o Environment – home, etc.
What you should do is honestly summarize where you are in all of these areas. Second, take a look at what you may need to do to resolve any or all of the issues that are currently pending. If, for example, under “friendship” you realize that the people you socialize with are mostly only interested in going to bars and getting drunk and you’ve had enough of this. You need to find people who want to do the kinds of things that are interesting and satisfying to you. Your working life is less than satisfactory, how can this change? Remember that small steps can make a big difference and I am not talking about doing this overnight. It is not a makeover program but a life program. It’s about focusing more and acting on your own behalf.
Now get ready for dating and relationships
Now that you have a plan to manage some areas of your life that require attention, you can also see where you are in terms of dating and relationships. The old saying “success breeds success” can be very annoying when your life is nothing like success. Just a pause here to notice that success is what success means to you, not what others might judge to be success. I can assure you that when you start to take the steps to be more successful in one area of your life, there are effects that affect other areas.
Without a doubt, you will begin to show yourself differently than those around you. Those friends who stopped you or didn’t even know how much you have in the bank may be a thing of the past. It’s about standing up and taking responsibility for your life so you can take responsibility for the successful relationship you really want. Take one step at a time making sure all the steps go in the same direction and you will find that you can move your life forward on the path of relationship.